red, white and blue

red, white and blue

Hope that you all had a wonderful 4th of July. Our plans always include hanging at PawPaw and MawMaw’s house with bbq, watermelon, swimming, and fireworks. It was a fabulous day. It also included some political chit chat too {I promise that this won’t be a rant about my political views}.

But, it made me reflect a little on the fact that we truly can’t control the world that we live in, and we can’t control the people around us. Oh, but, don’t we all secretly wish that we could.


BUT, what can you and I control??

The only kind of control that God ever put into our hands is SELF CONTROL.

We have the ability to control our attitude, our time management, our words, our actions.

“Focus on what you can change.”

Mike and I have this control talk often. We both can suffer from that “I want you to do it my way” syndrome. So, if you didn’t already know, Mike and I are complete opposites. It’s a beautiful thing {most of the time. HA}. We have been on a cash budget since January. It has been great because it frees us both. He doesn’t have to worry about not having enough money to pay bills, and I have the ability to become more disciplined with shopping. In this detailed budget, my honey {he’s 100% type A} has to daily choose to let me make right choices within our budget. He has learned that he can’t micro manage this budget. But, what he can control is how he encourages me in making those right choices {his words}. I can’t control our paycheck amount or how much that is allotted for each category, but I can control how I shop for groceries and how I plan out my days {my actions}. It’s been a learning process and has brought a deeper level of self control and trust personally and in our marriage. Sheesh, it only took us 18 years. LOL.

“Don’t let the things that you can’t control affect the things that you can control.

 Talking about budget: I’m wearing the cutest white top and it’s under $15. Shop that top HERERomwe has so many affordable summer tops. And, you will want to pair them with this adorable straw beach tote which you can shop HERE. I’m obsessed with everything in Mimic Design Etsy  store. I would need a larger clothing budget to purchase it all. Ha.
Thanks for stopping by my blog. Hope that you have an amazing week!!


  1. July 5, 2016 / 2:52 pm

    Oh my gosh I love that bag! Those tassels are AMAZING.

  2. July 5, 2016 / 2:55 pm

    That’s so awesome! You and your husband sound like you balance each other out perfectly! 🙂 love that top and that bag xo

  3. July 5, 2016 / 2:57 pm

    You look BEAUTIFUL In this look! I am always so self conscious in shorts but you rock them so well!! I love that you and Mike are complete opposites!! We are walking thru the same things lolol! Isn’t love beautiful!!?? Happy tuesday love!! Love you!!!

  4. sydney
    July 5, 2016 / 4:11 pm

    That bag is so cute!
    xo, Syd

  5. July 5, 2016 / 10:05 pm

    Love the simple fourth of july outfit! And that wall too!!

  6. July 5, 2016 / 11:01 pm

    This outfit is so darling! Simple but still chic. I love what you have to say about self-control. It’s such an attribute to perfect. We should all work on having more self-control. Thanks for sharing! 🙂

  7. July 5, 2016 / 11:25 pm

    I love this cute and sporty outfit👏👏and love this pretty purse!!😍😍

  8. July 6, 2016 / 2:15 am

    Just ordered a really similar bag to that one, and now that I’ve seen your photos, I’m even more excited to get it in 🙂 Great look!

  9. Anna
    July 6, 2016 / 2:32 am

    Loving on this high/low top girl! The loose fit is perfection! XO

    Anna || A Lily Love Affair

  10. Ashley
    July 6, 2016 / 2:41 am

    This is adorable! I love the poms! I have this top too, and you just totally inspired me with a new way to wear it!

    xo Ashley

  11. July 6, 2016 / 7:52 am

    Totally obsessed with this bag…and more importantly, I think you’re truly one of a kind! You inspire me! xo

  12. July 6, 2016 / 3:03 pm

    They say opposites attract! Love the honesty in your writing. I also LOVE these shorts. Lately I feel like I cannot find a pair that cover my buns, but these look great!

  13. Teresa
    July 6, 2016 / 5:20 pm

    I am literally obsessed with that tote! It is so amazing! I think I need to pick one up!

  14. July 6, 2016 / 7:17 pm

    Always love stopping by your blog because you always talk about relevant and important topics! I struggle with similar control issues and am glad to hear that you two are working it out and that it’s made your relationship even stronger! Also, this outfit is absolutely adorable – I’m all for cute basics for a bargain! ❤️

    xoxo, CiCi

  15. Mackenzie
    July 6, 2016 / 8:14 pm

    Such a cute outfit!! I love what you said about choosing to dwell on the things you can control, not the things you can’t. I definitely struggle with this myself, and I can often dwell and worry over things that are beyond my control. This made me feel a bit better!! Great post babe! xo

  16. July 6, 2016 / 8:24 pm

    Love this look – that hat is perfect! Budgets are hard – it seems like you have come up with a system that works well for you and your husband.


  17. July 6, 2016 / 10:32 pm

    That bag is so cute! Budgets can be intense and wanting to be in control can be so hard to change but sounds like you and your hubby make it work well!

  18. July 7, 2016 / 12:30 am

    I’m totally loving that bag! Such a cute twist on a normal straw bag. Gorg!

  19. July 7, 2016 / 5:48 pm

    I just discovered Rowme too! It’s so crazy cheap! I love it.

    Let me know if you find more good picks from there – I always get nervous about the fabric.

    Love this post! Happy girl.


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