If you haven’t read the book The Five Love Languages, you must purchase it asap. A friend of mine is currently reading it, and it made me want to reevaluate myself and the relationships in my life. Am I seeking out to know their heart and to know their greatest needs?? Gosh, I know that I need to be more intentional. I think of my relationship with the hubby, the kids, family and friends…. am I sowing into them what they really need??
Did you know that we usually give others what we really want from them?!? This is so true for Mike and I. You think that we would have learned by now since we have been married for almost 19 years. My love language is 75% quality time, and the runner up with a whopping 25% is gifts. Mike’s top two would be words of affirmation and of course, physical touch. Both of us are not too much on acts of service.
But, y’all, I was just complaining about our date night or the lack thereof. I NEED date night to unplug and to connect. All of our needs and wants seem to be communicated more freely when we take time away from the norm… cough, cough.. time away from the kids. In my opinion, it’s selfish to not want to take time to INVEST into your marriage. It’s hard to focus on each other when there is kids running around, food to clean up, chores to be done, and your favorite t.v. show is calling your name.
Seriously, some people just don’t know how to date their wife/husband after being married for so many years. It doesn’t have to be the typical dinner and a movie.. although, food is never a bad idea. So, I wanted to share just a few simple ideas that we have attempted or want to attempt:
progressive dinner type of date (traveling to a different restaurant for each course)
“old school” game-board night (Scrabble, Life, Chess, Yahtzee)
cooking together or even a cooking class
going to the gym to workout together or exercising at the park
pedicures or better yet a couple’s massage
art night at a local painting company like Painting with a Twist
or if you are not creative, check out this Date to Door box
Bottom line is the “spark” must be kept alive!! Who doesn’t want to continue to feel the butterflies that you felt when you first started dating? I WANT that!! Consistent date night will help you both fall in love with each other all over again week after week after week.. And, communication and conflict resolution will only strengthen. Okay, I’m ready right now to go on our date!! I can rock this dashing fur coat too.