Y’all, it’s been 20 years ago this month that my husband and I met. I’ll spare y’all the cheesy names that we call each and lovey-dovey lingo. But, I wanted Michael to help me share how our love story began.
P.S. I was only 18 yrs old when we met, and he was 27 years old. He totally robbed the cradle.
How did our love story begin??
Michael: Well, in 1997, we met at my college roommates wedding. I was a groomsman and Angelle’s sister was the maid of honor. Her sister introduced us right after the wedding concluded. We spoke for a few minutes. At the reception, a couple of my college buddies dared her to pin some money on me during the money dance, which she actually had the confidence and playfulness to do. A week later after church, we decided to go get coffee at Barnes & Nobles. It was there that I felt that there could really be a serious connection between us because of her genuineness, her ease at conversion, her love for God, and her beauty. The four hours of conversation felt like five minutes. The rest is history. We were married 15 months later.
Me: Our love story began really way before I actually met Mike. As a little girl (as young as 5 years old), I dreamed of my prince daily who was tall, dark, and handsome #nojoke, and he had to love God as much as my daddy did. I journaled often what I wanted. Lots of frogs came and gone along the way who I thought would be my prince. After meeting Michael, there was something different. He had a confidence and steadiness about him that drew me in. As the layers of our hearts began to peel back, I started to see my prayers were being answered (my prince charming that I journaled and dreamed about was right in front of me).
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How has our marriage stayed strong after 18+ years and four kids later??
Mike: Through the highs and lows which there has been plenty, our marriage has stayed strong because of a deep commitment to Christ and to each other. We both have said that we are covenant with each other; there is no buy out clause. We still date each other often. We make communication and intimacy a priority. We value each other’s trust and opinion. We operate on a financial budget. We are on the same page when it comes to raising our children.
Me: It hasn’t been easy, but I totally agree.. we have Jesus, and He has taught us how to cultivate a beautiful, strong love. Life, love, and marriage can be compared to the steps in a staircase. We dare not skip one step because one leads to the next. It’s part of the journey to get to the desired destination. We have learned that we can’t skip the importance of daily communication no matter how we feel: honest, raw and real thoughts have to be laid out on the table to prevent misunderstandings, unwanted resentment, and unneeded disappointments. Even with the busy schedule that comes with four kids, communication has helped us dig out of some deep holes. And, the other thing that we have learned and still are learning: notice each other and ENJOY each other. Can’t skip these simple steps no matter how busy life gets.
What advice would you give to those single and those married in regards to how to cultivate a legendary love!?
Michael: Cultivate trust. Keep your word. Date each other. Remain intimate. Share feelings. Don’t let hurts and emotions go unchecked. Your life is not your own. Sometimes your desires and wishes need to take a backseat to the wishes of others.
Me: Love can not be mistaken for a magical fairytale. Michael and I use to live in this fantasy world with high expectations placed on another. We quickly learned that it was tearing us apart and putting insecurities in both of us. I surely can’t be the perfect wife and mom, and he surely can’t be perfect either.. it’s unrealistic. But, love can be legendary which means remarkable, esteemed, well known because it stood firm no matter the storm. Marriage is laying down our expectations and saying “I choose you today, tomorrow and forever” because I appreciate who you are and love you despite our differences. And, let me say that Mike and I are completely different. It’s almost comical. But, we are on the journey to cultivating that legendary love.
Okay, I shared more of the golden nuggets that we have picked up over the last 20 years. We both love working on our relationship and making sure that we honor God and one another. Our relationship growth has been a truly been beautiful. Anywho, we do hope that you celebrate your love always and not just a few times a year… but Happy Valentine’s Day!! Thanks for stopping by Dashing Darlin’.
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Laura Rike says
Awwwwww! Your story made my heart melt. Love love love! xx
What a beautiful couple and an amazing love story! Love this!
Belle | One Awesome Momma
Lee Anne says
What a sweet love story! I loved hearing from the two perspectives. Happy Valentine’s Day!
Dawn Darnell says
Such a sweet story and great advice to others seeking a secure relationship.
So cute! Sweet story!
Jessica Sheppard says
Angelle, love your beautiful journey and love story. Your pics are fabulous too! So grateful for godly, strong relationships the model what love really is…centered around the love of Jesus. You are two are inspiring…goals!
tiffani at Breton Bay says
This was very inspiring to read. My husband and I are coming up on our 9 year anniversary and more than ever we are constantly communicating at how to stay as strong as we are now (which is stronger than ever!!) And like you both admitted, it hasn’t been easy, but communication and DATING as been key for us too. We feel our relationship is the best gift we can give our 3 babies that watch our every. single. move.
The sweetest love story!! Such a special post!!
Amanda | The Golden Girl Diary says
This is seriously so beautiful and so well written, by both of you. I loved getting to know you better and your love story. These photos are stunning as well. <3
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Omg you two are absolutely darling! <3
Oh my gosh y’all are super cute together.
Hannah Palamara says
You guys are so so cute and your pictures together are incredibly beautiful!! Your story is also amazing
Nicole Leffew says
You two have a beautiful relationship! I love that God plays such an important role. People need to learn from you two! #goals! Xoxo
You guys are adorable!!
Aw such a beautiful love story! You all are a beautiful couple, and wishing you many more years of happiness together!
this is just the sweetest post, loved learning more about your love story. Happy v-day!
The Editors Notebook says
Aww what a sweet story!
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Brittany Daoud says
This is such a sweet love story! It’s so nice to get a little insight into how people met and different perspectives on relationships and marriage! Thanks for sharing yours!
Sarah K Tripp says
This is such a sweet post! You two are the cutest! xx
Obsessing over these photos, you guys are so cute!! I also love how you set it up as an interview, GOLD!
Rachel / http://www.helloher.co
This was an absolutely beautiful post to read today! I love that Christ was seriously the center of your relationship, before marriage even entered the equation. That makes a world of difference, and it truly provided a beauty to the two of you as a couple. You’re an inspiration to me in my own relationship, and I thank you for sharing both of your hearts in this!!
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This is the sweetest post! I need to bookmark this – we are getting married this spring and I love reading tips like these!
You guys are perfect! <3
sarah lindner says
You guys are too cute! This is adorable!
This is such a sweet story! I used to journal about my future husband too and I thought I was the only one!
This is seriously sweet. You guys are so cute together!
Makayla M. says
You two are so so sweet!! Love all of these shots 🙂
what a sweet story… I love reading this like this!! xo
Amanda Kruse says
I love that you shared how the two of you met – so sweet!
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Sandy a la Mode says
You two are SO cute!!! I love this and I love these pictures!
Awww, you guys are so dang cute, and these pictures are wonderful. I love a good love story. <3
April Basi says
such a beautiful love story!